When your crush is actually giving you the time of day, it’s easy to find romantic hope in virtually any interaction. But just because you interpret some behavior as flirting, that doesn’t mean that’s actually what it is. In fact, the following four behaviors probably mean they’re trying to blow you off instead:
- They play hard to get. If they’re playing really hard to get, then sorry, but your crush is just not that into you. When they don’t text or call, make plans, pay attention to you when you’re out in public, or engage in conversation, then most likely, you aren’t a very high priority for them.
- They flirt with your friends. I used to think that if my crush was flirting with my friends, it was only as a way to make me jealous because they actually liked me. But no. That’s not the case. If someone is flirting with your friends, it is because they don’t like you. They like your friends.
- They set you up with their friends. Someone who likes you does not want to see you hooking up with their best buddy. They don’t ask you if you like their college roommate just to test you or because they love you so much—they feel they just have to pawn you off to someone else. A person who likes you will ask you out. They won’t hand you off.
- They “neg” you. A person who likes you will give you real compliments—ones that don’t make you feel bad about yourself or rile you up in order to get a response.